Tuesday, June 11, 2013 @ 9:45 PM
Have to get this off my chest today :
You may know a person for a really long time and yet you can never fully know the person. Nobody is entirely transparent, nobody is without secrets. When you slowly discover the lives of those whom you refer to as your friends, quirks and conflicts may arise but that's normal because everyone's different. That, I can accept. But here's something to consider : Your friends are called your "friends" for a reason, they're not called your "family" because your family accepts you for who you are; they can stand how shitty your attitude is and they can tolerate you for being such a B. Besides, they're most probably forced to accept you given the fact that they're stuck with you as "family" - there's no escaping God's arrangement.
But your friends DON'T have to accept you.
The world doesn't evolve around you so stop being so self-centered. Your friends can drop you whenever they want like they've never known your existence. You can say that those friends are not your real friends and such but come on, sometimes it's you who've caused a broken friendship. Being a selfish prude towards your friends, taking them for granted, thinking that what they do for you everyday is something they owe you because "they're my friends what, they're supposed to treat me well". Continue having that mindset and one day you'll realise how many friends you've lost. You say you don't give a damn whether they've left you or not because "real friends will stay" but please, stop creating excuses for yourself. People always say that true friends will accept you for who you really are but that doesn't mean you have a right to be a giant jerk to them. Your friends love you for who you are but don't take it for granted, don't take it too far, because they may love you but they don't HAVE to. They may be someone you've known really long and you've grown very comfortable with (or even sick of) them but that doesn't mean you have the right to abuse that friendship. Friends are humans, too. Everyone has a limit. Not all your friends will point out your flaws to you because they might not want to embarrass/hurt you or they're afraid that you might get mad/annoyed or they feel that it's none of their business. But if a close friend was brave enough to confront you about your attitude and point out your flaws, just take it in stride. It is undeniably embarrassing at first and can really hurt your high ego but seriously, aren't we all striving to be better people? They tell you because they care for you and want you to change. They don't want you to bring that lousy attitude to your workplace in the future that may cost you your job. And frankly, they're also quite sick of how you're treating them like scum.
If all you're expecting from people are compliments, how are you supposed to grow? If you know a certain flaw that you possess, work to change. It's easier said than done but with time, it will be done. And during that period of change, that's when you can observe who your true friends are because only they will have the patience to stay by your side and help you through; the rest will leave because they've given up on you completely. That's okay, you're just weeding out the parasites, then. There's no harm becoming a better person; don't constantly be a huge jerk to them just because "my true friends know this is how I am", "they can stand it" or "they can accept me for who I am, not like some people". Grow up and learn to treat others with respect; not everyone will have such a high tolerance level in life. Your friends don't owe you anything, neither does anyone, so stop acting like a stuck-up B who owns the lives of others.
And gosh, just stop using your friends because they're "your friends". It's so irritating when people think they can trample all over you just because you regard them as friends. Shit you, they're your friends. They're people, not tools. Old friends, new friends, close friends, hi-bye friends - nobody deserves that treatment from you. If you want something, ask for it first. Don't assume that people are obliged to give you what you want; everyone has the right to say NO. Just because "they're your friends" doesn't mean you can take whatever and whenever you want. They may not tell you how they feel about you but be more considerate. Think about others for once and put yourself in their shoes. How'd you feel if your friends took your items for their own benefit even after you've said NO? I can tell you it's really bloody annoying and hurtful to know that your so-called "friends" don't respect your decision.
Lastly, don't be stingy about helping others. Why so selfish? So many people help you everyday (but you don't realise it because that's how ungrateful you are) so isn't it time for you to give back? If you're not ready to give then don't be so thick-skinned to take. If you don't respect others, at least show some respect for yourself. Are you really that shameless? Taking other people's things like you own them? Hell. Whatever it is, only your family will accept how bipolar you are (not really, some families can't even stand each other). Continue being like this and that'll reassure people that it's time to move on from being friends with you. Your friends deserve better, anyway. And don't be surprised if someone starts spreading negative comments about your attitude, it may or may not be true, but there's always a little truth behind every rumour. Look at yourself, how have you been treating people lately? If your conscience is untainted then there's no need to feel guilty/worried. But honestly, no one dislikes someone who's nice unless they're Bs themselves. If you've heard bad things about you, it's most probably your own fault.
I'm done speaking in general. If you think I'm directing this post to you then I am.
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